Boundaries are important in human relationships. With boundaries established, there is less chance of big problems surfacing later on.
When in a relationship, ask yourself who you are dealing with. Are you in a verbal interaction with your own or somebody else's parent, child, spouse, work colleague, acquaintance, neighbour, leader of a paid/ unpaid work group, gossip group etc.?
There are topics and choices of formality of language items deemed safe and permissible to broach with and engage in, respectively with each of those persons mentioned above.
Even within a supportive environment, caution must be exercised when dealing with different cultural groups. Boundaries of comfort level of topics vary greatly within sub-groups, as in anything else in life. Wisdom that comes with maturity of age and accumulated life experience is a highly-sought and useful factor to apply in very tenuous situations.
Saturday, April 14, 2012
Putting a person in a tight spot
Do you know how others can mock you and take advantage of your good will?
Easy!
1) Use timing - one that is right for them but not for you,
2)catch you doing wrong and gossip all over town about it including a few spicy lies,
3) impose on you their terms and conditions made to be as complicated and confusing as possible
4) entice you with freebies which will only build up their value
5) use rough/ indecent/bad / foul language
6) force you into agreeing with something that they want for you with no rational outlet allowed
7) report false things about you
8) act "GOD" with you
9) always want to have the last say with you
10) try to intrude into your personal life and concerns without permission.
Beware - there are all sorts of people with different agendas and intentions in interacting with you.
Easy!
1) Use timing - one that is right for them but not for you,
2)catch you doing wrong and gossip all over town about it including a few spicy lies,
3) impose on you their terms and conditions made to be as complicated and confusing as possible
4) entice you with freebies which will only build up their value
5) use rough/ indecent/bad / foul language
6) force you into agreeing with something that they want for you with no rational outlet allowed
7) report false things about you
8) act "GOD" with you
9) always want to have the last say with you
10) try to intrude into your personal life and concerns without permission.
Beware - there are all sorts of people with different agendas and intentions in interacting with you.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
A world of variety!
What an amazingly unbelievable world we live in!
Spectrum of colours in everything created by God and all kinds of people, animals and flowers.
It is truly wonderful to witness courageous people excel in God-given talents whilst inspiring others without any inclination of taking advantage of weaker , more ignorant and less well-connected ones.
Baser things are harder to take note because of their gap from heaven. The Holy Spirit grieves over people that do not know the extent of damage they do His world.
Matt 5:45 - He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.
Spectrum of colours in everything created by God and all kinds of people, animals and flowers.
It is truly wonderful to witness courageous people excel in God-given talents whilst inspiring others without any inclination of taking advantage of weaker , more ignorant and less well-connected ones.
Baser things are harder to take note because of their gap from heaven. The Holy Spirit grieves over people that do not know the extent of damage they do His world.
Matt 5:45 - He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.
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